Monday, March 2, 2009

Bachelorette Party Etiquette?

Ok, so my best friend from college is getting married in April. I am a bridesmaid in her wedding. So far she hasn't been too bad about things and really hasn't been a 'bridezilla.' Now, her maid of honor on the other hand, is being a bit demanding. We are having the bachelorette party and bridal shower the same weekend, this was to help me out. I have never been to a bachelorette party and don't really know what to expect. I am the only one that does not live in the same town that the parties are being held. I have to make a 4 hour drive and pay for a hotel room in town. I am the only one incurring any major expenses just to attend the parties. Now, I don't mind doing this, but I feel that no one has even considered this fact. Today I received the invitation to the bachelorette party. I am expected to pay for a hotel room for the bride to "open presents." What?! I have to buy her a present?! The MOH wants a "sexy" gift for the bride to take on her honeymoon. And I have to pay for a hotel room for this, why can't we just do it at the restaurant where we are having dinner or the bride's apartment? So, I emailed the MOH and asked about the expenses, reminding her that I am coming from out of town. I inquired about paying for the hotel room, I asked if it was an issue of having a sober driver, that I would be happy to take anyone home that would need a ride, as I don't drink. She replied that it was in case anyone got too drunk they would have a place to crash. And I'm supposed to pay for this, I don't think so. If they get too drunk to go home, then they can pay for their own room, that's their own problem. Then we were told that we had to buy the bride a drink and snack when we go out to the bars. Now, I don't drink and I have issues with other people drinking and getting drunk. I don't think that it's my responsibility to help get her drunk. I'm not trying to be difficult, but I have my limits. I'm already paying a lot out of my pocket to just attend, now I am expected to pay everything for her? I'm just frustrated and to the point that I don't even really want to go.


Hermione Bagnold said...

Wow! Well, I've been in two wedding parties, but neither had a shower or bachlorette party...So I can't offer up any suggestions, but I agree with you. That seems more than just a bit ridiculous! She should take those things into acocunt (that you're already putting out the money you are and that you don't drink and are willing to be a designated driver)! That's not fair to you!

I hope that she starts to see to reason and that it settles down a bit for you!

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